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Elaine Gantz Wright's avatar

Aaron. about five years ago, you recommended Pema Chodron's "When Things Fall Apart" to me. Since then, it has been my constant companion. Finding the lessons in the rubble is probably our most powerful work -- but inherently agonizing. Love your thought about the elongating gap between us and our most meaningful goals. If only "objects in your rearview mirror" were further away than they appeared. Good to see your words.

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I approach the new year as you do, excited for my new blank daytimer, fresh goals, the possibility that this year I'll finally become who I want to be. But dealing with Long-Haul COVID for almost a year has changed my perspective. This year there will be no 25 Goals for 2025, no book-reading benchmark, no overarching theme for the year. I will just be. I will follow my mind, heart, and body where they want to go. I will tap into my inner Dr. Pangloss and "cultivate my own garden"—with the election results and topsy-turviness in the world, if there's ever been a year to focus inward and find joy in simple pleasures, this is it. I'm intrinsically goal-oriented*, so we'll see how it goes, but I'm excited to try to live small this year.

* I've had enough therapy to know that my need to overachieve has more to do with not feeling worthy of love than it does with the goals themselves.

Happy New Year, Aaron. I miss seeing you.

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